Monday, March 16, 2009
Needing One Another
Our whole life is about being around people, about needing people. We thrive on relationships, receive energy from interpersonal interactions and grow from sharing challenges with others. God designed our lives this way. He set it up so that we would come as infants to a family where we would be raised taught and nurtured. How is it then, that so much can go wrong and change this plan so completely? How does it happen that an individual can become so unsupported and alone?
I remember as a child going to the visitor center down at the Mesa Temple and watching short, inspirational films. One such film was one put out by BYU called Cipher in the Snow. It was a story of a young boy who literally faded into the next life without being noticed in this one. It struck such emotion in me that I have never forgotten the story.
I struggle when I hear people talk about co-dependency: defining it as needing other people for support. I think there lies a fine line between co-dependency and interdependency.
We are called upon to bear one another's burdens; stand with those in need and lift up the hands that hang down. This doesn't sound like a life that is meant to be lonely.
We need people. We need to be loved. Wanted.
I need to hear my hubby say he loves me. I need him to look at me "that way." I need a hug or smile from a friend. And, if I were only to receive negative comments, all day, everyday, it would break me. I don't know how to be any other way.
What do you need? What do you give to those who need you?